Ladies...I'm talking to you...

Earlier this week I did a quick post on how being single can be sexy. This week

I've had a lot of interaction with my divorce clients and there was so much

heaviness around starting over. I just feel like I need to bring a little levity to the discussion. Trust me, I don't take divorce lightly, but there is always a silver

lining....

Let's face it, being single can be tough. You're constantly bombarded with

images of happy couples in love, and it can be hard to feel sexy when you're

flying solo. But believe it or not, there are some upsides to being single. In fact,

being single can be downright sexy! Here's why:

You're Free to Do You

One of the best things about being single is that you're free to do whatever you

want, without having to answer to anyone else. If you want to stay in bed all day and binge-watch Netflix, you can do that! If you want to go out on a spontaneous road trip, you can do that, too. When you're single, you don't have to worry about what someone else wants or needs – you can just focus on yourself. And that can be pretty empowering.

You Can Be More Spontaneous

If there's one thing that most people crave, it's spontaneity. And when you're

single, spontaneity is your middle name! Since you don't have to check in with

anyone or make sure that your plans align with someone else's schedule, you

can pretty much do whatever you want, whenever you want. That means more

impromptu trips, spur-of-the-moment get-togethers with friends, and overall a lot less planning and a lot more living in the moment. And who doesn't love that?

You Get Me Time...a Lot of Me Time

Whether we like it or not, we all need some time alone every now and then. And when you're single, me time is basically built into your schedule. Whether it's taking a long bath, reading your favorite book cover to cover, or just taking a leisurely stroll through the park by yourself, alone time is an important part of self-care – and when you're single, you've got plenty of it! If you have children, hopefully you have a good parenting plan in place so that you get some time to yourself. If you don't, make sure you give me a call.

So there you have it. Who knows, maybe being single is exactly what you need

right now. Embrace your independence and enjoy all the perks that come along

with it!

Take care,

Lakisha.

Watch Your Mouth!...

Teach Your Children They are Worthy In a world that is constantly telling children they are not enough, it is more important than ever to instill in them a sense of worthiness. Whether it be through the media, school, or even peers, children are faced with messages that tell them they need to be thinner, faster, stronger, smarter, and more successful in order to be valued. Negative self-talk can quickly become a self-fulfilling prophecy, leading children down a path of low self-esteem and poor self-image. One of the best things you can do as a parent is teach your children they are valued. This doesn’t mean you have to tell them they are the best at everything they do—in fact, it’s important to point out their flaws and shortcomings as well. What it does mean is that you should make an effort to listen to them, really hear what they are saying, and let them know that their thoughts and opinions matter. Just as importantly, avoid making comments that tear them down or make them feel less than worthy. While you don’t want to put pressure on your child to be perfect, you should encourage them to be their best selves. Help them set realistic goals and then give them the tools and resources they need to reach those goals. Encourage healthy habits such as eating right and exercising regularly. And most importantly, praise their efforts—even when they don’t succeed. It’s not about winning or losing; it’s about doing your best and learning from your mistakes. Children who feel good about themselves are more likely to treat others with kindness and compassion. Teach your children about the importance of helping others, whether it be through volunteering, donating money or goods to those in need, or simply treating everyone with respect—even if they don’t deserve it. The more compassionate your children are towards others, the more likely they will be to have fulfilling relationships throughout their lives. The world can be a harsh place for children—especially when it comes to messages about self-worth. It is therefore essential that we as parents take the time to instill in our children a sense of worthiness. By teaching them they are valued, encouraging them to be their best selves, and teaching them compassion for others, we can help our children develop into happy, healthy adults who love and accept themselves just as they are. We also have to remember that children watch what we do more than they listen to what we say. Make sure you show up in a way that allows them to be their best selves.

Take care,

Lakisha.

I Eat Fear for Breakfast….

I just wrapped up my quarterly retreat with my business mastermind in Phoenix. And while I was the only lawyer in the room, I wasn’t the only entrepreneur who struggles with mindset issues and childhood trauma that affects how I show up every day; especially in my business. If I’m honest, it is much easier for me to help my clients through issues than it is for me to help myself.

In keeping it 100% real with you, I have to put in the work daily. I have all of the things I advocate to you in my weekly posts - a therapist, acupuncture treatments, massages - but there is the deeper, core work that requires a deeper level of commitment to myself that I don’t always meet. My goal for this quarter and next year is to bring an even better version of myself to my business. I know this means I have to make some investments and a few leaps of faith that make me so nervous. But I have to remember that I didn’t get here without being afraid – I just did it anyway. Even though I may wake up with fear, I have to eat it and move on knowing that what is on the other side is better for me. I hope that my clients know how much they mean to me. I hope that you trust and support me as I grow this year. I will bring another attorney into the practice so that I can expand the way I serve you. So, if you see me or think of me, please send the love my way. I’m sending you mine every day.

Take care,

Lakisha.