Grieving: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

At this time of the year as the leaves are falling and the season is changing, I always feel a slight sense of loss and a little sadness. Fall has always reminded me of having to go back to school and leave the comfort of my home. I have come to realize that this is a form of grief that is pretty normal.

Grieving is a process that is as unique as the individual experiencing it. There is no one right or wrong way to grieve, and often, the process looks different for each person. Some may find themselves withdrawing from social activities and others may seek out support groups. Some may cry often while others may feel numb. There is no one way to grieve, and that is okay.

The Good One of the good things about grief is that it is a natural process that allows us to come to terms with our loss. Grief can be a powerful motivator for change and growth. It can help us to appreciate life more fully and can motivate us to make positive changes in our lives.

The overall experience of grief does not have to be bad. We can experience grief and gratitude at the same time. Parents, think about how it feels when you have to drop your children off at daycare for the first time or drop them off at college. While we celebrate the milestones, we grieve the loss of our children’s tender years.

The Bad Grief can also be a very painful experience. It can be overwhelming and confusing. Grief can cause physical symptoms such as fatigue, headaches, and upset stomach. It can lead to sleep problems, anxiety, and depression.

The Ugly Grief can sometimes lead us to do things that we would not normally do. We may say things that we later regret or behave in ways that are out of character for us. This is because when we are grieving, we are not thinking clearly. We may make impulsive decisions or lash out at those around us.

Oftentimes, when my clients are going through a divorce, they experience various levels of grief. This often manifests itself in heated arguments and rash decisions that they may regret later. Therefore, I strongly advise my clients to seek as much therapeutic support as they can when going through this process.

Take care,

Lakisha

Hold Up, Wait a Minute…

No one ever said that going through a divorce or child custody battle was going to be easy. In fact, it's likely one of the hardest things you'll ever have to go through. And if you're currently in the midst of a family court matter, you probably know just how true that is.

Dealing with the legal system can be frustrating, time-consuming, and exhausting. It's easy to lose sight of the big picture when you're bogged down in the details. But it's important to remember that good things come to those who wait. Patience is a virtue for a reason, and that's especially true when it comes to dealing with a family court matter.

If there's one thing you need to know about the legal system, it's that it moves slow. Very slow. So slow, in fact, that it can often feel like it's not moving at all. And when you're in the midst of a divorce or child custody battle, that feeling can be even stronger. Trust me when I say that I know how difficult it is to be patient when you feel like your life is on hold. I have several of my clients who are experiencing this right now. But the truth is, rushing through the legal process is only going to make things worse.

We know it's hard to believe, but good things really do come to those who wait—especially when it comes to family law matters. Rushing through the process will only lead to mistakes being made and important details being overlooked. If you want what's best for your case, then you need to be patient and let things play out as they're supposed to.

Every single detail matters in my cases—no matter how small it may seem at the time. That's why patience is so important; rushing through things can cause important details to be missed, which could potentially have a negative impact on your case later down the road.

No one ever said that going through this was going to be easy. If you have been my client, you know that I always say “it gets bitter before it gets better”—but that doesn't mean it's impossible. Dealing with the legal system can be frustrating, but it's important to remember that good things come to those who wait. Patience really is a virtue when it comes to these types of cases, so try your best to remain calm and let things play out as they're supposed to.

Take care,

Lakisha.

Ladies...I'm talking to you...

Earlier this week I did a quick post on how being single can be sexy. This week

I've had a lot of interaction with my divorce clients and there was so much

heaviness around starting over. I just feel like I need to bring a little levity to the discussion. Trust me, I don't take divorce lightly, but there is always a silver

lining....

Let's face it, being single can be tough. You're constantly bombarded with

images of happy couples in love, and it can be hard to feel sexy when you're

flying solo. But believe it or not, there are some upsides to being single. In fact,

being single can be downright sexy! Here's why:

You're Free to Do You

One of the best things about being single is that you're free to do whatever you

want, without having to answer to anyone else. If you want to stay in bed all day and binge-watch Netflix, you can do that! If you want to go out on a spontaneous road trip, you can do that, too. When you're single, you don't have to worry about what someone else wants or needs – you can just focus on yourself. And that can be pretty empowering.

You Can Be More Spontaneous

If there's one thing that most people crave, it's spontaneity. And when you're

single, spontaneity is your middle name! Since you don't have to check in with

anyone or make sure that your plans align with someone else's schedule, you

can pretty much do whatever you want, whenever you want. That means more

impromptu trips, spur-of-the-moment get-togethers with friends, and overall a lot less planning and a lot more living in the moment. And who doesn't love that?

You Get Me Time...a Lot of Me Time

Whether we like it or not, we all need some time alone every now and then. And when you're single, me time is basically built into your schedule. Whether it's taking a long bath, reading your favorite book cover to cover, or just taking a leisurely stroll through the park by yourself, alone time is an important part of self-care – and when you're single, you've got plenty of it! If you have children, hopefully you have a good parenting plan in place so that you get some time to yourself. If you don't, make sure you give me a call.

So there you have it. Who knows, maybe being single is exactly what you need

right now. Embrace your independence and enjoy all the perks that come along

with it!

Take care,

Lakisha.